Contractions are painful…

…and has harsh as it may sound, it’s about time she’s feeling them! We are well passed the due date and have been overwhelmed by emails, questions and texts, wondering what is happening here in the back of beyond! It has been a very frustrating and depressing few days but finally we have made our way into the hospital waiting room, the birth mom has been induced, and the show is about to begin

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A Watched Pot Never Boils…

We’ve arrived in Indiana where the Birth Mother is currently 1cm dilated.  While that didn’t sound like any rush to arrive to cornfield “nothing to do” Indiana, the baby is indeed fully dropped and we have been advised that 1cm can turn to 10cm very quickly.  So here we are….waiting for the pot to boil, which everyone knows a watched pot never does boil… Continue reading

“Well…your kind of like the mom”

I cannot tell you how many times I have heard this. From family members, friends and co-workers. Granted, I may not be He-Man over here, but we will be 2 MEN raising a child.  While my partner will technically be the “full-time bread-winner” and I will be the “stay-at-home parent” (for only a couple of months mind you), suddenly people picture me with an apron on, running to the front door with a baby in one hand and blueberry pie in the other, to greet my partner after his long day from work. Continue reading

Gay Parenting

My father asked me how I…being a male…a gay male…was actually going to be able to raise a child with my partner.  Ignorance makes me laugh out loud (quite literally) and that was how I began my response.  I ended it simply by saying “I can assure you that our child/children will be much more confident and secure than I was in my own childhood”. Of course, how can he have argued that?  I find that ignorant people tend to not pick up a book, newspaper, read a study, and find an educated answer on anything they “believe in”.  They simply hear or see what they wish.  Nevertheless…facts are facts.   Continue reading

My Promise…

A statement was made to me recently which implied that adoption wasn’t a valid way of creating a family. A unique way…just not a real way.  While trying not to regurgitate all over the other person, I want to make it clear that whether or not a gay or straight couple adopts a child, or someone that is single, please keep in mind that we’re bringing another member into the extended family and into our circle of friends.  Continue reading