“Well…your kind of like the mom”

I cannot tell you how many times I have heard this. From family members, friends and co-workers. Granted, I may not be He-Man over here, but we will be 2 MEN raising a child.  While my partner will technically be the “full-time bread-winner” and I will be the “stay-at-home parent” (for only a couple of months mind you), suddenly people picture me with an apron on, running to the front door with a baby in one hand and blueberry pie in the other, to greet my partner after his long day from work. Continue reading

Gay Parenting

My father asked me how I…being a male…a gay male…was actually going to be able to raise a child with my partner.  Ignorance makes me laugh out loud (quite literally) and that was how I began my response.  I ended it simply by saying “I can assure you that our child/children will be much more confident and secure than I was in my own childhood”. Of course, how can he have argued that?  I find that ignorant people tend to not pick up a book, newspaper, read a study, and find an educated answer on anything they “believe in”.  They simply hear or see what they wish.  Nevertheless…facts are facts.   Continue reading

My Promise…

A statement was made to me recently which implied that adoption wasn’t a valid way of creating a family. A unique way…just not a real way.  While trying not to regurgitate all over the other person, I want to make it clear that whether or not a gay or straight couple adopts a child, or someone that is single, please keep in mind that we’re bringing another member into the extended family and into our circle of friends.  Continue reading